I hate it when I start writing, only to worry that I’m too closely resembling my influences. Any tricks to making SURE you’re original? lol
Don’t worry about when you write it the first time. You can always catch that stuff in the re-write.
I need some advice… How is it that someone can claim to miss you, yet when you give them another chance they do the same ole stuff?
Missing someone and what a person does is not often related. What’s the real reason they miss you? Answer that and get truth
@freople that’s deep, and true… Thanks
Finding memorabilia of relationships past in my room. Hesitant to just throw away. Maybe I’ll get advice on Wed…
Put it all in a box. Put that box in storage. Pull it out in a few years. Laugh/cry/laugh & then toss it.
Well, it has been couple years now. Almost trying to suppress emotion though. Want to throw away, but part of me.. still cares.. =/
You’ll probably always care to some extent it’s whether or not you can let go that will will determine toss or keep.
I’ve moved on mostly, it’s just throwing away a huge photo of her is symbolically strong lol. Thanks so much for your replies btw!
I rarely throw pictures away. But I’ve got a lot of them stored in boxes. You’re welcome and have a good night. I’m out!
Why is it when I have to do something the next day I can never sleep???
I have same problem. Try getting up, drinking h2o, writting what’s spinning in your head and then relax like u don’t care.
I have tried it before and it works sometimes but not tonight
Hmmm.
i jus want love and happiness. why do i feel like something is always missing?
Love and happiness are Always there for you. Your love belongs to U @ can’t b provided by anyone else, not even him.
thanks but its hard to convince my mind that..
It takes practice. You’ll get there, even if it hurts for while. Remember, love your friends and they’ll love ya back.
“The strong can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the weak.” Taken from real life.
Um… respectfully… that’s a load of hooey. But I’ll forgive you.
@freople I feel very sorry for you. For you have yet to live
So your son lies to you, you don’t forgive and never trust him again? Don’t feel sorry for me. Living just fine. I’ll forgive you.
I didn’t get a response back from this guy but all of this did get me thinking…
I certainly understand the idea that forgivness can be percieved as a weakness but as most things that are percieved as weekness (kindness, love, etc…) it often takes much more strength to forgive than to hold the grudge.
I have this idea that our minds contain specific boxes for certain ideas, emotions and feelings. The kicker is that these boxes can not hold an infinate amount of crap. Eventually the box that holds hate (or any negative crap) fills up, bulges at the sides and spills over into other boxes until hate is infecting the other boxes in your mind. Being able to forgive and therefore love lowers the level of hate that would build up and spill over into other boxes.
Ok, so the boxes thing is a little weird, but it works for me. The point is… and this is good advice…
Take time to forgive, it’s the only way a relationship can move forward.
Why do I worry so much? Maybe I should just… stop thinking.
The answer is Fear. Sucks, right? Figure out what you’re scared of, realize there’s no reason to be afraid = no more worrying.
About 10 years ago I found myself stuck in a bit of a rut. A “bouncing” rut if you will. I was bouncing from job to job, relationship to relationship, hobby to hobby, car to car and house to house. You can understand that this might become tiresome. I was mostly exhausted and a little lost for meaning in all of it. It took me a while to figure out what was going on with me and when I did it hit me like a cold wind. Not enough to knock me over but enough to take my breath away for a moment. I was scared.
Strange idea, this fear. What people saw of me was mostly fearless. Talk to anyone, climb to great heights, take risks that others would shy from and tell people very personal things. But all of this “fearlessness” was in an attempt to control my situation, control my image and show people that I wasn’t scared that I had no fear. What I realized was that it was fear that lead me to show this fearlessness.
I can remember when I figured this all out but I no longer remember what line of thinking got me there. In what I am sure was a brilliant, blinding flash of insight it became clear to me that I was very afraid. Afraid of closeness, afraid letting people in, afraid of failing. Basically, I was afraid of all the things I was so busy trying to prove I wasn’t afraid of.
I realize that this is not all that interesting. Anyone that spends any time at all doing some personal reflection will eventually come to something similar. Even at the time I understood that. But because I had been so wrapped up on my fearlessness it still took my breath away.
It took only seconds to come to a solution that would change forever the way I made decisions. It was simple and direct.
Make no decision based on fear.
This simple statement brought about a profound change in almost everything I did. “I might not like it” was no longer an acceptable reason for choosing one thing over another on a menu. “Because I might fall” was no longer an acceptable reason to rope up on a climb. That didn’t mean I went un-roped, I just changed my mind set to something like “I’ll have more fun if I rope up”. The list of excuses dropped away quickly after committing to this one simple statement.
Slowly things in my life changed. It wasn’t over night but, relationships got better (I’m now married with a kid), I stopped moving every time my lease was up (or before), and the bouncing rut that I had been in, flattened out a bit. Slowly these things changed, sometimes slower than I would have liked but I felt better about most all the decisions that I was making.
Advice: Try this for a week. For every decision make sure that fear doesn’t enter the equation.
Make no decision based on fear
Let us know how it goes.
Why do I insist on wearing my heart on mu sleeve? I’ve got to grow out of this.
never grow out if it. You’re better for it.
Why do I always feel like I’m going to get in trouble when I go to the dentist? I always get an A+…..
I think that parents used fear too much when we were growing up and it still works on us now. Advice: get to know your dentist.
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